Ever since I first recognised my anxiety as a real presence in my life (and not just a pretext for laziness), I've looked at my life defensively. I've told myself that I don't have the drive, the perseverance, the discipline that I aspire for. And I've thought that keeping myself away from the cliff-edge of anxiety requires an adjustment of expectations accordingly. But doing this guilt-free and reasonably is one thing I've never mastered. Over the years, the figure of who I want to be has become so dominating in my mind that it is impossible for me to imagine my actually existing self shorn of ambition, aspiration, guilt and shame.
I've always seen myself in terms of what I still have left to do, and hence failed to recognise the qualities others say they see in me. From the assertions about my resilience from my previous counsellors to the affirmations about my integral presence in the company from my last boss, numerous others have pointed out strengths that I find difficult to recognise.
Thus far, the strategy to change this pattern has been to reality test these assertions against my own self-doubt and learn to recognise them as more truthful. Needless to say, this strategy has failed miserably. But, I recently thought, what if I were to not try to ascertain the truth value of these assertions but try to simply live them as articles of faith?
So, that's my new 90-day project. I'm not going to tiptoe my way through the next 90 days, hedging thoughts and actions to protect my fragile ego-integrity. Instead, I'm going to take these assertions at face value, and live my aspirations as if I have endless stores of resilience, determination, will, strength and power with which to pursue them. What if I am every bit as powerful as I want to be? How will I live my life then? This is my experiment for the next 90 days.